It is overwhelmingly easy to get caught up in a moment, a schedule, a role. That said, it is logical to assume that many couples may be doing just this; they get caught up in momentary fun, call it a relationship, and take on the roles of people in love. People who don’t take time out to examine the relationship and its function in their life may never see this objective view. Perhaps this compatibility and role-playing can last a durable amount of time but is this, simultaneously, the reason why so many couples end up unhappy?
Compatibility is a flexible term. Many people use it in reference to the level at which two people are agreeable and when saying two people are compatible for each other, he/she is typically referring to a high level of connection between the two. However, what if compatibility is merely the ability to get along? For lack of more optimistic phrasing, what if these “compatible” couples are simply two people that can live alongside each other without plotting murder? Subjectively apply a couple of lovely words, a supposed higher meaning, and you’ve got love?
The intent is not to sound bitter or propose that love does not exist. Rather, the idea is that true love is rarer than we like to convince ourselves to believe. A woman watches a film about a romantic relationship and is afterwards left with a resounding, faux- love feeling. However, this is not love, it is a manipulation of emotion. Partly due to these fantastical ideas and manipulations, many women form ideas about what elements combine to form the perfect man and a sketchy definition of what love is. Then, when a man comes along, says the “right” words at the “right” times, and projects interest, a woman may come to the conclusion that he is the “right” guy because she has been able to put checkmarks in all of the boxes.
It’s simple to dismiss these people as unbelievably ignorant but to be caught up in a mode, in a compartment of life, is an incredibly powerful force. So, unfortunately, the question remains: how do we define true love and separate it from the faux love?
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I like this post. it is interesting what the word "Compatibility" truly means. I remember taking those compatibility tests at school to benefit key club, and I would always hope to be compatible with the kid i liked...but we just didn't like our chicken prepared the same way. (sigh.)
I really like the idea of your topic and I definitely believe there's some truth to the real vs faux love. It'll be interesting to see this topic develop.
I agree with your topic and think that there is such thing as being illusioned that you're in love with someone. I think too many times people mistake love for other things such as it just working and being happy and "compatible". I think all of those compatibility test would be interesting to look into and the criteria they go off of.
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